UNPUNISHED
How To Let Go Of Punishments And Find Your Parenting Peace

Is having a peaceful home your parenting dream?

Are you tired of trying to be the perfect parent and done with society’s high expectations around parenting and children?





I felt my daughter slipping away.

I felt hardened to her.

The continual use of punishments and control was destroying my relationship with my daughters and it will inevitably destroy the relationship with your children.

Sadly, I see it happen all too often and we have to spend years of undoing the damage. 

To create the bond you want with your children, you have to cultivate a relationship free of punishment.

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What They’re Saying

Quick question (that might not have a comfortable answer…)

How much time do you spend putting out fires in your own home?

We spend most of our parenting time resolving or engaging in conflict instead of enjoying our children.
 
Most of us have been told we must punish and threaten our children into behaving, which will give us well-behaved, respectful kids.

But that ideology is flawed.

Are you experiencing tension or frustration at home?

You might not believe this, but all it takes is a reframe, a new thought, and a mindset shift. A shift to more peace in your home right here for you right now!

Unpunished gives you the roadmap to less fighting, more love, and a connected relationship. 

Now it is your turn to take the plunge and begin the journey to more connectedness and fewer upsets. 

Quick question (that might not have a comfortable answer…)

How much time do you spend putting out fires in your own home?

We spend most of our parenting time resolving or engaging in conflict instead of enjoying our children.
Most of us have been told we must punish and threaten our children into behaving, which will give us well-behaved, respectful kids.

But that ideology is flawed

How much time do you spend putting out fires in your own home?

You might not believe this, but all it takes is a reframe, a new thought, and a mindset shift. A shift to more peace in your home right here for you right now!

Unpunished gives you the roadmap to less fighting, more love, and a connected relationship. The author illustrates this through her journey, failed moments, and challenging road. 

Now it is your turn to take the plunge and begin the journey to more connectedness and fewer upsets. 

Let’s be honest :

When it comes to feeling connected and peaceful...

The traditional way to parent isn’t “working” anymore.

5.8 million children were diagnosed with anxiety in 2016-2019

2.7 million children were diagnosed with depression in 2016-2019

36.7 percent of Adolescence in 2018-19 had persistent feelings of hopelessness

18.8 percent of adolescents considered attempting suicide

Connected parenting and doing away with conventional parenting methods will help our children feel better about themselves and our relationships. Unpunished is a roadmap to making this happen.

Connective parenting and doing away with conventional parenting methods will help our children feel better about themselves and our relationships. Unpunished is a roadmap to making this happen.

Do away with the conventional ways of punishing and ensure your children don’t become a statistic.

I knew I was on the path to a disconnected relationship with my children that would be filled with regret.
And it would be my fault, not theirs.

I was the yelling, bribing, disconnected parent that was perpetuating that in my children. But then I learned about connected parenting and began to restore a healthy connection with my daughters.

Now, after helping thousands of parents build remarkably loving relationships with their children, I want to help more families build connection.

  • How to find and give empathy.
  • Redefining the ways to connect in parenting.
  • How to put yourself first so you're not burned out and exhausted.
  • Ways to look outside of the traditional box of parenting tools.
  • Why parenting is personal.
  • How to stop yelling, reduce sibling rivalry, and create more harmony.

Hey there

I'm Michelle

After nearly 13 years as teacher and high school counselor, I felt my relationship with my daughters was unraveling. 

I am admittedly, a recovering control freak, yeller, and perfectionist. As my daughters matured, the bribing, punishments, yelling and frustrations escalated to the point I often cried myself to sleep.

Then I heard about a different way of parenting. Shortly thereafter, I made a scary leap & decided punishments and rewards were not for me and I was going to give up my controlling ways and try something totally different. 

It was like an out-of-body experience the first time my oldest defied me and I didn’t immediately threaten to take away her favorite toy.

Hey there

I'm Michelle

A recovering control freak, yeller, and perfectionist.
Would you believe me if I told you in 2012 I decided punishments and rewards were not for me and I was going to give up my controlling ways and try something totally different?

It was like an out-of-body experience the first time my oldest defied me and I didn’t immediately threaten to take away her favorite toy.

I gave up my years of rewards and punishments, and a career as an educator using these same tactics and I doubled down on the idea of connection. I figured things were so bad, my kids were fighting non-stop and my yelling was at a fever pitch...... what did I have to lose? 

I gave up my years of rewards and punishments, and a career as an educator using these same tactics and I doubled down on the idea of connection. I figured things were so bad, my kids were fighting non-stop and my yelling was at a fever pitch...... what did I have to lose? 

The only problem was: what to do instead? How would we function without bribes? How would teeth get brushed and kids go to bed?

Little did I know it was all in the idea of connection. The connection actually brought cooperation, and the tactics of rewards and punishments that I so desperately thought I needed were making things worse.

This book is my personal journey, the stories of my clients, and the practical things I have learned along the way that have helped me and hundreds of clients find peace and connection in parenting. 


As Seen In


When you Read Unpunished You Will Learn: 

  • How to do away with punishments and why they are so detrimental to parenting.
  • Find ways to build connection with your child.
  • Unravel the unhealthy societal norms and how those lead us astray as parents.
  • ​Analyze your real-life parenting situations that can be troublesome.
  • ​Find yourself inspired and encouraged in your parenting journey. 
REAL PARENTS, REAL RESULTS

Kirkus Book Review:

A debut offers parents a new direction for disciplining children.

Kenney draws on own experiences (she’s a parent first and a coach second). She believes no matter where you fall on the parenting spectrum, you could be feeling overworked or tired. Or, perhaps you struggle with physical punishments and find yourself spanking, yanking, or grabbing your child to get them to obey,” she writes.

Instead of calling children “good” or “bad” is the equivalent of throwing in the towel: “if we’re going to label them, I prefer to use the 

Kenney writes with a winningly engaging openness and consistent sympathy both for the challenges of day to day parenting and the stresses of childhood. The author clearly offers a wide variety of better solutions to disciplining, from “active listening” to analyzing each child’s temperament and gently “reprogramming” both the kid’s behavior and the parent’s. 

She presents her advice in compelling, immediately accessible prose, complete with bulleted points and lists, and the warmth of her compassion removes any hint of the kind of criticism that might make some of her readers feel defensive.

A readable and disarmingly wise guide.

Before I did away with punishments, I was afraid about parenting without punishment.

I wondered, “Am I doing the wrong thing?"

Will my children grow up to be entitled and spoiled?

12 years later, my kids and the ones from the families I help thrive with a good sense of morality and integrity. Don't allow fear to keep you from making one of the most profound changes in your parenting pedagogy.

You can parent differently!

It takes courage to change the way you approach parenting. You might not be totally confident in parenting without punishments yet, but confidence is derived from courage. 

If you wait until you are completely ready to take the leap, you may be waiting a long time. Instead, try thinking about what kind of parent you want to be, what that person looks like, and what you need to make that person and parent your reality. 

Often, it takes support, so get that support now to take this next leap into a more peaceful and connected home free of punishments.

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